Families
A relative who writes because somebody they love is attending is answered by a person, at length, without being told anything about that person.
What is done
- The correspondent answers with what is public: what happens at a gathering, what the Fellowship asks for, what residence costs, who the steward is, and an invitation to come and see the building on an ordinary Tuesday.
- Where a relative is frightened, the reply says plainly that no member is asked to give money, break contact, move in, or account for their family, and that the writer is welcome to test this by visiting.
- The member is told that a letter was received, in every case, and is told nothing about what to do with the information.
What is not done
- No detail about any person's attendance, standing, health, residence, or contribution is given to a relative, ever, including to a spouse and including to a parent.
- No approach is made to a member's family by the Institute, at any time, for any reason.
- No relative is enrolled, added to a list, or written to again.
Goes wrongThe refusal to confirm that a person attends at all is experienced as stonewalling, and in one case in 2014 a mother whose son had in fact stopped attending two years earlier spent a further year believing the Institute was concealing him. The Institute has not found a way round this and prints the complaint.
COR/2014/22 — Correspondence with a parent, and the reply
Former members
A person who has left may use every public surface of the Institute without asking, explaining, or returning.
What is done
- Public gatherings, the archive, the Journal, the Reader, the meal, the correspondence: all open, on the same terms as to anybody else, with no readmission and no conversation about coming back.
- A former member's own papers are given to them on request, at cost of copying, whether or not they left owing money and whether or not they left angry.
- Where a former member asks to be removed from the printed roll, they are removed, without a reason being asked for or recorded.
What is not done
- No approach, no invitation to return, no anniversary letter, no request for an exit account, no visit, and no record of where a person went.
- No warning about a former member is circulated to any house, and no list of people who have left in bad terms exists in any form.
- Nothing a former member says in public is answered by reference to why they left.
Goes wrongHouses are sentimental and individual members do write to people who have left, which is their own business and is not the Institute writing. Two former members have said the distinction is thin from the receiving end.
COR/2019/07 — Letter from a former member, and the reply
Critics
Substantial criticism is printed in the Journal or the archive with a reply from a named person, or with no reply where there is nothing to say.
What is done
- The Journal has printed eleven critical pieces by people outside the Institute since 1980, unedited, at the writer's word length.
- Where the criticism is right, the reply says which part is right and what has changed. Where nothing has changed, the reply says that it has not.
- Where the criticism is a matter of judgement rather than fact, the Institute prints both and stops.
What is not done
- No critic is described as hostile, misinformed, bitter, unwell, or unready. No critic's private history with the Institute is mentioned in a reply.
- No legal threat is made about anything said about the Institute, and none has been made since 1988.
- No account of persecution is kept, told, or implied. The Institute has never been persecuted and would find the claim useful, which is why it is forbidden.
Goes wrongThe house style is patient to the point of condescension. A critic wrote in 2022 that being answered by the Institute is like being apologised to by a filing cabinet, and the stewardship, in a reply that proved the point, thanked her for the observation.
COR/2022/14 — Exchange with a critic, printed entire
Researchers
Academic access is granted to the catalogue on the same terms as to anybody, with the withheld material withheld and listed as withheld.
What is done
- The finding aid is public. A researcher may read anything open, at a house, during ordinary hours, with a fortnight's notice for the record room.
- The Institute does not ask what the research is for, does not require sight of the work, and does not seek a right of reply before publication.
- Where an item is withheld, the researcher is given the reference, the reason, the date of the withholding, and the date of the next review.
What is not done
- No exclusive access, no favoured researcher, no approval of findings, no requirement to submit a draft, and no funding of anybody who studies the Institute.
- No living person's file is opened to a researcher, whatever the person's standing or notoriety.
Goes wrongThree doctoral researchers have complained that the withheld list is itself an argument, and that an institution which publishes what it will not show has arranged to be interesting about it. The archivist agrees this is a fair charge and has no remedy that is not worse.
COR/2016/31 — Correspondence with a doctoral researcher
Journalists
Questions are answered in writing by a named person. Interviews are usually declined and filming almost always is.
What is done
- Written questions get written answers within a fortnight, with figures where figures exist, and the whole exchange is catalogued and may be printed by either side.
- A reporter may attend any public gathering as a member of the public, sit anywhere, and speak to anybody who wants to speak to them.
- Errors in print are answered once, briefly, on the record, and the answer is filed with the article.
What is not done
- No filming inside a house while people are at work, no photographs of anyone who has not agreed, no access to a hospice sitting, and no interviews with residents arranged by the Institute.
- No press office, no spokesman, no embargo, no background briefing, and nothing said off the record.
- No complaint to an editor or a regulator about any piece, ever.
Goes wrongDeclining interviews reliably produces the sentence 'the Institute declined to comment', which is worse than the interview would have been. The stewardship has debated this since 1996 and has never changed the practice, which the correspondent describes in the file as institutional cowardice dressed as restraint.
COR/2011/45 — Correspondence with a newspaper, with the published piece
Neighbours
The people nearest a house are told about anything that will affect them before it happens, and are answered by the steward directly.
What is done
- Notice of building work, of any gathering above the ordinary size, and of anything involving vehicles or noise, delivered by hand.
- A standing offer at every house: the long room may be used by anybody local, free, on the ordinary terms, and it is used most weeks by things nothing to do with the Institute.
- Complaints are answered by the steward in person within a week, in writing afterwards, and are printed in the house's own book whether or not they were justified.
What is not done
- No neighbour is invited to a gathering as such, and nobody is called on.
- No dispute with a neighbour is described to members as anything other than a dispute with a neighbour.
Goes wrongParking. Every house that grew has a parking problem and every parking problem has taken years too long to admit; the Shore House file on the harbour front runs to nine years and the house was in the wrong for the first six.
COR/2008/12 — Neighbour's complaint and the house's admission
Public agencies
Inspectors, regulators, licensing officers, and safeguarding authorities get full cooperation, complete records, and no negotiation.
What is done
- Fire, food, building control, charity regulators, and safeguarding authorities are given whatever they ask for, at once, without a solicitor present and without asking why.
- Where a house is found at fault, the finding is printed in the annual report with the date it was put right, or the date it has not been.
- Where a matter concerns the safety of a person, the Institute reports it to the proper authority and says so to the person concerned, and does not treat it as an internal matter first.
What is not done
- No claim of confidentiality, privilege, conscience, or internal jurisdiction is ever raised against a public authority.
- No public official is entertained, given anything, or asked for a favour, and no house accepts a grant conditional on anything but the work it names.
Goes wrongCooperation upward has twice substituted for candour downward: in 2013 a food hygiene finding at River House was corrected within a fortnight and mentioned to the members eleven months later, in the report, which is where they read it.
COR/2013/28 — Notice from a county officer, and the house's reply
Partner organisations
Hospices, libraries, food banks, and a speleological society. The Institute works under their rules and does not recruit on their premises.
What is done
- Every arrangement is written, dated, terminable by either side at a month's notice, and names what each side does.
- Institute members working with a partner work as volunteers of that partner, under that partner's supervision and safeguarding, and say so.
- Where a partner asks the Institute to stop something, it stops first and discusses afterwards.
What is not done
- No literature, no Reader, no circular, no invitation, and no conversation about the Practice on a partner's premises or with a person receiving a partner's service.
- No partner's name is used in Institute material as an endorsement of the Practice, and no partnership is described as a certification, accreditation, approval, or recognition of anything the Institute believes.
Goes wrongA hospice ended its arrangement with Briar House in 2017 after a volunteer answered a dying man's question about what she believed. The volunteer was not disciplined, the arrangement was not restored, and the house still thinks the hospice was harsh. The hospice was not harsh.
COR/2017/19 — Termination of a hospice arrangement
Owners of former property
Two buildings the Institute used are now owned by other people, who are left alone.
What is done
- The current owners were written to once, at purchase, with a note of what the Institute holds about the building and an offer of copies of the plans.
- Where a person turns up at a former building, the house that keeps the papers writes to the owner and apologises.
- The addresses of former buildings are not printed in Institute material.
What is not done
- No visits, no anniversaries, no photographs taken from the road, no plaque, and no request to be let in.
- No former building is described as still belonging to the Institute in any sense, ordinary or otherwise.
Goes wrongIt happens anyway. The owner of the Seawall building has written three times in eleven years about people at the gate, and the Institute's letters of apology have got shorter each time, which she has noticed and mentioned.
COR/2020/09 — Letter from the owner of a former building