The Continuance Institute

The Practice

Correction, separation, and return

What happens when a duty is not done, when a person is harmed, when an office is used for something it does not cover, when somebody stops coming, and when somebody comes back. The procedures are printed in full so that a person who is the subject of one can read it before anybody speaks to them.

Most of what follows never happens. A house of forty people running a rota, a kitchen and a roof will have three or four matters a decade that reach any of these papers at all, and the commonest of them is that somebody has taken on more than they can do and has stopped saying so.

The Institute keeps written procedure for the rest of it anyway, because a house improvising in the middle of a difficulty is a house that treats people differently depending on who they are. The procedures are dull on purpose and are printed in full so that a person who is the subject of one can read it before anybody speaks to them.

Two things run through all of it. The first is that the work is separable from the person: where an obligation is not being met, the obligation goes back to the house long before anybody discusses conduct, and often that is the end of the matter. The second is that the Record is added to and never rewritten — a correction is entered beside the thing corrected, and both remain legible.

The stages

Nine things that may happen, in the order they are ordinarily reached. Most matters reach the first and stop. None of them is a penalty; the Institute has no penalties and cannot remove a member.

  1. 1The work returns to the house

    The duty goes back on the rota. This is administrative, happens first, and is not a finding about anybody.

    Where a duty is not being done, the first thing that happens is that the duty is done by somebody else. The rota clerk reassigns it, the house is told at notices who now holds it, and the entry in the rota book records the change and the date.

    This happens before any conversation, and it happens whether the reason is illness, work, a difficulty at home, a person having taken on too much, or nothing anybody knows about. The house does not wait to find out which. A boiler service that is three weeks late is a boiler service that is three weeks late.

    In the large majority of cases nothing further occurs. The rota book shows a reassignment, the person picks something up again some months later or does not, and no other paper is made.

    Who may open it
    The rota clerk, or the steward where there is no clerk in office.
    What is written down
    The reassignment and its date, in the rota book. No reason is entered.
  2. 2A conversation is asked for

    One person asks another for half an hour. It may be declined, and declining ends the request.

    Where something more than a rota is involved, a steward or a convener asks the person for a conversation. The request says what it is about in one sentence, so that nobody arrives without knowing.

    The person may bring somebody with them, may ask that it happen somewhere other than the house, may ask for it in writing instead, and may decline it altogether. A declined conversation is not itself a matter. It is written down as declined and the house proceeds on what it already knows.

    Nothing is recorded of what is said in the conversation unless both parties agree a note, in which case both hold a copy. A steward who takes a private note of a conversation and files it has done something the procedure forbids.

    Who may open it
    A steward, a convener, or the person themselves.
    What is written down
    That a conversation was asked for, and whether it happened. Nothing of the content, unless both agree a note.
  3. 3An account may be given

    A person may set out their side in writing. They may equally decline. The two are treated the same.

    Where a matter is going to be written down, the person it concerns is offered the opportunity to write something that will be filed beside it, in their own words and at whatever length they choose. It is not edited.

    They may decline. COR/1987/143 is the standing example: a member declined in two sentences, the decline was filed, and the matter was determined on the papers without any inference being drawn from the silence. The procedure states in terms that no inference may be drawn.

    There is no confession, no admission, no undertaking, and no form of words a person is asked to sign. Nobody is asked to account for their beliefs, their household, their politics, their friendships, or their reasons for anything outside the conduct at issue.

    Who may open it
    Offered by the office holding the matter; taken up or not by the person.
    What is written down
    The account, in full, or the fact that the offer was declined.
  4. 4A correction is entered beside

    The wrong entry stays. The right one is written next to it, with the date and who wrote it.

    The Institute does not amend a record in place. Where an entry is wrong — a figure, an attribution, a date, an account of what was decided — the correction is written beside it and both are legible afterwards.

    This holds for corrections that embarrass the Institute, and it holds for corrections that embarrass a member. MIN/2011/02 concerns a ledger entry a house officer knowingly falsified; the false figure is still in the ledger, with the true figure and the minute beside it. Removing the false figure would have destroyed the evidence that it was made.

    A person may ask for a correction to be entered beside anything that concerns them, and it is entered without the archivist judging whether it is right. Where the archivist disagrees, she enters that beside it too.

    Who may open it
    Anybody, by writing to the archivist.
    What is written down
    The correction, the date, and the name of whoever wrote it.
  5. 5An office is released

    Where the difficulty is in an office, the office ends. The person's standing is untouched by it.

    An office may be laid down at any time by its holder, on a month's notice, with no reason given. Where the house asks for it instead, the request is made in writing, the holder may answer it in writing, and the release is entered on FRM/2010/05.

    A release is not a finding of misconduct and the form has no field in which one could be entered. A person released from an office may hold another office the following year, and two have.

    Where the office was misused — a steward spending above the standing figure, an archivist showing a restricted file to somebody entitled to nothing — the release and the conduct are two separate papers, and the second one says plainly what was done.

    Who may open it
    The holder, or the house in writing to the stewardship.
    What is written down
    The release, on FRM/2010/05, unannotated. Any conduct paper is separate.
  6. 6Three from other houses look at it

    For serious matters, the people who decide are not from the house involved and do not know the parties.

    A matter involving harm to a person, an allegation against a steward, or anything that might end in a restriction is not decided by the house it happened in. The stewardship asks three members of other houses, none of them holding an office at the house concerned, to read the papers and to say what they think should be done.

    They meet once, ordinarily for an afternoon, and they write a page. They may speak to anybody who is willing to speak to them, and to nobody who is not. They do not have the power to remove a member; nobody in the Institute has that power, and the review's recommendation, where it is not accepted, is printed beside the decision that departed from it.

    Three of the eleven reviews since 1990 recommended nothing be done. Two recommended the Institute apologise, which it did, in writing, over the signature of the steward concerned rather than an institutional one.

    Who may open it
    The stewardship, on the request of any house, circle, or member.
    What is written down
    The papers read, the recommendation in full, and the decision, whether or not it followed.
  7. 7A restriction is written in plain words

    Where somebody must not attend, the paper says so, says why, and says when it will be looked at again.

    A restriction is the only thing the Institute does that limits a person's participation without their agreement, and it exists for one purpose: so that a person who has been harmed is not obliged to sit in the same room as the person who harmed them in order to keep their own place in the practice.

    The paper is written in ordinary English and is short. It names the person, states what they may not do — attend a named house, attend any house, hold an office, be at a gathering where a named other person is present — states the conduct it follows from, gives the date it takes effect and the date it is reviewed, and names who to write to about it. It says whether the police have been involved, where they have.

    The house words are not used in this paper. Nobody is held apart, carried outside, or asked to stand at a distance. The word is restricted, the sentence is in the active voice, and the person is sent a copy before anybody else is told.

    What a restriction is not: it is not a withdrawal of membership, which the Institute cannot do; it is not published; it is not told to a person's employer, family, or circle beyond those who must know to operate it; and it does not follow a person into the rest of their life. Twelve have been made since 1990. Nine have ended.

    Who may open it
    The stewardship, ordinarily on the recommendation of a review by three from other houses.
    What is written down
    The restriction, on FRM/1990/12, and the date of every review of it.
  8. 8A person separates

    A person may stop at any point, for any reason or none, including in the middle of a matter.

    Separation is available at every stage and is taken by saying so once. A member who separates while a matter is open is not pursued, is not written to twice, and is not asked to finish anything.

    Where a matter concerns harm to another person, the papers already made remain in the Record and the review, if one was asked for, finishes its page, because the person harmed is entitled to the finding whether or not the other party is still attending. Nothing further is sent to the person who has separated beyond one letter telling them that this is what has happened.

    The Institute does not telephone, does not call at a house, does not write to a family, does not ask other members what they know, and does not keep a list of people who have left. There is no such list. A house that made one would be asked to destroy it and the request would be minuted.

    Who may open it
    The person, once, to anybody.
    What is written down
    The date and the standing. No reason, unless the person asks that one be kept.
  9. 9A person returns

    Return is ordinarily available and deliberately uneventful. Where a restriction is in force it is looked at first, plainly.

    A person who separated in the ordinary way and comes back is welcomed in the words used for a first attendance, is asked nothing, and takes up a duty or does not. This is the whole procedure and it is set out at length in the circular on periods of separation.

    Where a restriction was in force, the position is different and is said plainly rather than gently. The person writes to the stewardship; three from other houses read what happened and what has happened since; they say whether the restriction ends, ends in part, or continues, and the person is told which, with the reasons, in writing. Where somebody was harmed, that person is asked — privately, once, and without being made responsible for the decision — whether they wish to say anything, and what they say is weighed but is not a veto placed on their shoulders.

    Four people have returned after a restriction ended. Two hold offices. The Record shows the restriction, its ending, and nothing else about them, and no house may raise it.

    Who may open it
    The person, by writing to a steward, a convener, or the stewardship.
    What is written down
    The return, and the ending of any restriction. Nothing about the intervening years.

The matters

Grouped by what kind of thing they are. Two of the groups are not matters of correction at all and are printed here because houses have historically treated them as though they were.

The work

A rota repeatedly not kept

Somebody has stopped doing a duty they took. Almost always this means they took too much on and could not say so.

What happens first

The rota clerk reassigns the duty, tells the house at notices who holds it now, and says nothing about why.

How it ends

Ordinarily the duty is simply held by somebody else. A steward may ask, once and privately, whether the person would like less; a person who says nothing is asked nothing further.

What is not done
  • The person is not asked to explain and is not spoken to at the meal.
  • No count of missed duties is kept against a name; the rota book records who did the work, not who did not.
  • Nothing is entered in the Record about the person's standing, because a rota is not a standing.
  • The house does not ask a member's household, employer, or circle whether something is wrong.
Restriction

No restriction is available for this matter.

Stages ordinarily reached

The work returns to the house → A conversation is asked for

How the handling of it goes wrong

A house that lets it run for a year and then says everything at once, to somebody who thought nobody had noticed and would have handed it back in the first month.

Duty carriedOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

Somebody stops coming, having arranged nothing

A person holding a duty is simply not there, and has not said anything to anybody.

What happens first

The duty is reassigned at once. One letter is written to the address in the book, saying that the duty has been covered and that nothing is required in reply.

How it ends

The person returns, at any distance of years, and is asked nothing; or they do not, and the entry is closed and retained.

What is not done
  • One letter and no more. No second letter, no telephone call, no member sent to knock, no message through a circle.
  • The house does not ask a member's family, employer, or neighbours where they are.
  • No absence is recorded as a fault, and the standing is entered as separation, which is the ordinary standing and carries nothing.
  • Where there is genuine reason to fear for a person's safety, the house calls the emergency services and does not conduct its own enquiries.
Restriction

No restriction is available for this matter.

Stages ordinarily reached

The work returns to the house → A person separates

How the handling of it goes wrong

Concern that becomes a search. A house that means well and calls three times has made a person's return harder, not easier.

Closed; entry retainedOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

Conduct

An office used for something it does not cover

Spending above the standing figure, speaking for the Institute, promising somebody a place, or deciding alone what the procedure gives to a meeting.

What happens first

The archivist enters the objection beside the decision objected to, on the day it arrives, before anybody has considered whether it is right.

How it ends

With the objection and the answer both in the file, and — in the four instances since 1982 — with the office laid down early.

What is not done
  • The holder is not suspended; there is no such status, and the work continues until the office ends or is released.
  • No account of the matter is given to the press, and no statement of position is issued.
  • The person's standing is not affected, at the time or afterwards. Offices carry no standing and their loss carries none either.
  • The release paper is never annotated with the reason; where there is a reason worth recording it is recorded separately and openly.
Restriction

Not ordinarily available. A person may be asked not to hold a further office for a stated period, in writing, with a date on it.

Stages ordinarily reached

A correction is entered beside → A conversation is asked for → An account may be given → An office is released

How the handling of it goes wrong

A stewardship that treats a competent office holder's overreach as efficiency, because the alternative is finding somebody else to do the work.

Entered besideOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

Something private repeated

A person's address, illness, separation, restriction, or anything said in a conversation, passed to somebody with no business knowing it.

What happens first

The person the information concerns is told what was said and to whom, in full, before any decision is taken about the person who said it.

How it ends

With a note beside the file recording what left it, and, where an office was involved, either a change of practice or a release.

What is not done
  • The Institute does not decide on the person's behalf that they would rather not know.
  • No apology is offered on behalf of anyone who has not agreed to make it.
  • Restricted files are not audited by reading them; the register of who consulted what is read instead.
Restriction

Not ordinarily available. Access to particular files may be withdrawn, in writing, with the reason stated.

Stages ordinarily reached

A conversation is asked for → An account may be given → A correction is entered beside → An office is released

How the handling of it goes wrong

Treating a breach as a small thing because the person who repeated it meant well, which is how most of them happen.

Held outside the Common RecordOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

A record made false

A figure altered, an attendance entered that did not happen, a minute written to say what was not decided.

What happens first

The false entry is left exactly where it is and the true one is written beside it, with the date and the name of whoever wrote it.

How it ends

With both entries legible in the ledger, permanently, and the minute beside them.

What is not done
  • The false entry is never removed, tidied, or reconciled away; removing it would destroy the evidence that it was made.
  • No general audit of a person's earlier work is opened on the strength of one entry.
  • The matter is not described as dishonesty in any paper unless a review by three from other houses has said so in those words.
Restriction

Not ordinarily available. Where money is involved the treasurer states plainly whether the police have been informed.

Stages ordinarily reached

A correction is entered beside → A conversation is asked for → An account may be given → Three from other houses look at it → An office is released

How the handling of it goes wrong

An archivist who quietly corrects it, meaning well, and leaves the Institute unable afterwards to show what happened.

Entered besideOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

Pressure put on somebody who came once

A visitor telephoned, written to twice, asked to come again, asked what they believe, or asked for money.

What happens first

The steward tells the person who did it to stop, that day, and writes to the visitor once to say that they will not be contacted again.

How it ends

With one letter to the visitor and a line in the house book. Where it recurs it becomes a matter for the stewardship.

What is not done
  • The visitor is not asked to confirm, to complain formally, or to say who it was.
  • The house does not keep the visitor's details in order to apologise later.
  • No member is asked to bring anybody, ever, and no house counts who was brought by whom.
Restriction

Not ordinarily available.

Stages ordinarily reached

A conversation is asked for → A correction is entered beside

How the handling of it goes wrong

A house that is pleased when numbers rise and does not ask how, which is the beginning of every practice that has gone wrong in this way.

First attendanceOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

A correction refused

A person will not stop doing something the procedure says plainly is not done, having been asked more than once.

What happens first

The request is put in writing, with the clause it relies on quoted in full, so that the person can see exactly what is being asked and can dispute the clause if they think it wrong.

How it ends

With the procedure amended, the conduct stopped, a restriction where safety requires it, or the person separating. All four have happened.

What is not done
  • Nobody is asked to agree that they were wrong, or to say anything at all.
  • A person who disputes the procedure rather than obeying it is not thereby in the wrong; the dispute goes to the stewardship and the procedure has been amended twice this way.
  • No pressure is applied through other members, through a circle, or through a person's household.
Restriction

Available only where the conduct affects somebody's safety, consent, or property. A person may not be restricted for disagreeing.

Stages ordinarily reached

A conversation is asked for → An account may be given → Three from other houses look at it → A restriction is written in plain words → A person separates

How the handling of it goes wrong

Confusing a person who is difficult with a person who is dangerous, and reaching for the safety papers because the first is more tiring.

ReconciledOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

Safety

One person has harmed another

Assault, sexual misconduct, threats, persistent unwanted attention, financial exploitation, or sustained cruelty.

What happens first

The person harmed is asked what they want to happen and is told plainly what the Institute can and cannot do. Nothing is set going without them, except where somebody else is at risk, and they are told if that is the case and why.

How it ends

With a written recommendation from three members of other houses, a decision, and — where the Institute got something wrong — an apology signed by a person rather than by an institution.

What is not done
  • The person harmed is not asked to meet the other person, to forgive, to reconcile, or to consider the effect on the house.
  • Neither party is required to give an account, and no inference is drawn from declining.
  • The Institute does not investigate as a substitute for the police, does not discourage anyone from going to them, and does not ask to be told first.
  • No finding is published, and no name is read out at any gathering.
Restriction

Available, and used. The paper states what the person may not do, what conduct it follows from, when it takes effect, and when it is reviewed, in ordinary English.

Stages ordinarily reached

A conversation is asked for → An account may be given → Three from other houses look at it → A restriction is written in plain words → A correction is entered beside → A person returns

How the handling of it goes wrong

A house that manages the difficulty rather than the harm: keeping both parties comfortable, keeping the matter quiet, and leaving the person harmed to decide whether to keep coming.

Referred; openOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

A claim made about health, under the Institute's name

Any suggestion that attendance treats illness, that the practice replaces medical or psychological care, or that a member should alter medication.

What happens first

The steward corrects it immediately and in plain words to whoever heard it, and writes to the person who said it the same week.

How it ends

With a correction entered beside the paper or the notice at which it was said, and a letter that does not soften what was wrong with it.

What is not done
  • The Institute gives no medical, psychiatric, or psychological advice and holds no view about any person's treatment.
  • No house asks whether a member takes medication, and no such thing is written down anywhere in the Record.
  • Attendance is never suggested to anybody as a response to illness, grief, or distress, and nobody is asked to attend rather than see a doctor.
  • No member of the Institute speaks about another member's health to anyone.
Restriction

Available where the claim is repeated after being corrected. Such a person may be told plainly, in writing, that they may not speak at gatherings on the subject and why.

Stages ordinarily reached

A conversation is asked for → A correction is entered beside → Three from other houses look at it

How the handling of it goes wrong

A house that lets a well-liked member's harmless-sounding remark stand because contradicting them at the meal would be awkward.

Referred; openOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

Unsafe conduct on the fabric

Working a roof alone, driving members after drinking, ignoring the ladder rule, taking a child onto scaffolding.

What happens first

The work stops that hour. The custodian or steward says so directly and does not put it as a request.

How it ends

With the work rearranged, the entry in the repair ledger, and in two cases a person who does not go on the roof any more and still keeps the books.

What is not done
  • Nothing is left until the next meeting, and nobody's feelings are weighed against a ladder.
  • No house keeps a safety file on a person; the entry is against the work and the date.
Restriction

Available and narrow: a person may be told they may not do a named kind of work at a house. It is written as that sentence and no other.

Stages ordinarily reached

A conversation is asked for → A correction is entered beside → A restriction is written in plain words

How the handling of it goes wrong

A house that admires somebody's willingness enough to let them do it alone at seventy, and calls the result an accident.

Duty carriedOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

Return where a restriction was made

Return remains possible. It is decided by people from other houses, in plain words, and the person harmed is consulted without being made to carry the decision.

What happens first

The person writes to the stewardship. Three members of other houses are asked to read the papers and everything since.

How it ends

Nine of twelve restrictions have ended. Four people have returned; two hold offices; the Record says nothing further about any of them.

What is not done
  • The person harmed is not asked to decide, to forgive, or to meet anybody, and is not told that the outcome rests on their answer.
  • No undertaking, apology, or statement is required of the returning person as a condition, though they may make one.
  • The reasons are not softened. Where the answer is no, the letter says no, says why, and says when it may be asked again.
  • Once a restriction has ended it is not mentioned again by any house, and may not be cited in any decision.
Restriction

The existing restriction continues, ends in part, or ends. Whichever it is, the person is written to first and in ordinary English.

Stages ordinarily reached

Three from other houses look at it → A restriction is written in plain words → A person returns

How the handling of it goes wrong

Letting a restriction stand by default because nobody wants to be the person who ended it, which is how a safety measure becomes a punishment.

Returned to the houseOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

Not a matter of correction

Illness, injury, or incapacity

A person cannot do what they took on. This is not a fault and is not handled under any of the procedures above.

What happens first

The duty is reassigned, the person is told who has it, and they are asked nothing except whether they would like anything brought round.

How it ends

The duty stays reassigned for as long as it needs to. Where a person asks for it back they have it back the same week.

What is not done
  • No diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, or medication is asked for, discussed, or recorded.
  • No capacity is assessed by the Institute, which has no competence to assess it and does not pretend to.
  • Nothing is entered in the Record about a person's health without their asking for it in writing.
  • Nobody is removed from an office for illness; the office is released if and when the holder says so.
Restriction

No restriction is available for this matter.

Stages ordinarily reached

The work returns to the house

How the handling of it goes wrong

A kindly house deciding on somebody's behalf that they are no longer up to it, and quietly not asking them.

Place held unfilledOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

A person leaves

Said once, to anybody, at any time, for any reason or none. It takes effect when it is said.

What happens first

It is written down and the duty is reassigned. That is the entire procedure and there is no second part to it.

How it ends

The account is closed and the entry retained. The person may use the archive, attend a public gathering, and write to a house exactly as any member of the public may.

What is not done
  • No exit conversation, no letter asking them to reconsider, no visit, and no enquiry as to why.
  • No list of people who have left is kept for any purpose, and no house may keep one.
  • Nothing is said about the person at notices or at the meal, then or later.
  • Nothing is said or written to their household, their circle, their employer, or their family.
  • Their entry may be withdrawn from the public roll on request, in the week it is asked for, without a reason.
Restriction

No restriction is available for this matter.

Stages ordinarily reached

A person separates

How the handling of it goes wrong

There is one failure mode and it is the whole reason this is written down: an institution that cannot let people go quietly becomes something else within a generation.

Closed; entry retainedOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

A former member comes to something

Public gatherings, the archive, and public work are open to everybody, which includes people who left.

What happens first

Nothing. They are given a cup and asked how they are, in the way anybody is.

How it ends

The evening ends and everybody goes home.

What is not done
  • There is no readmission, no restoration, no renewal of anything, and nothing to sign.
  • Nobody is told that a former member is present, and no note is made of it.
  • A former member is not asked whether they intend to return, and is not treated as though the question is in the air.
Restriction

Only where a restriction was made for safety and is still in force, in which case the person has been told so in writing, in plain words, and knows before arriving.

Stages ordinarily reached

None. Nothing is set going.

How the handling of it goes wrong

A house that is warm to a returning face in a way that makes plain how much it has been discussed.

First attendanceOrdinarily entered beside the papers.

What the Institute has no view about

This is a limit on the Institute rather than a description of its members. It is printed as MEM/1992/05, posted in every house, and may be added to by any house. It has never been shortened.

Belief
The Institute has no doctrine about what is true and asks nobody what they believe. Members are of every religion and of none, and no house records which.
Politics
No house holds a political position, endorses a candidate, or asks how anybody votes. Members campaign for whatever they like in their own names.
Relationships and marriage
Who a person lives with, sleeps with, marries, or leaves is not the Institute's business and is not recorded. No house approves or disapproves of a partner.
Family
Nobody is ever advised to see less of their family. The Institute does not contact a member's family, does not accept complaints about a member from their family, and does not pass messages either way.
Children
Children of residents are not members and are not enrolled, counted, or given duties. There is nothing for a child to join. What a child is taught is decided by their parents.
Employment and money
No house asks what a person earns, advises anyone about work, or accepts a gift large enough that refusing the next one would be difficult. The threshold is printed in the accounts.
Medical care
The Institute gives no medical, psychiatric, or psychological advice, holds no view about anybody's treatment or medication, and never suggests that attendance is a substitute for care.
Diet, drink, and the body
No house prescribes what anybody eats, drinks, or does with their body. The kitchen cooks what is asked for and does not comment.
Where a person lives
Residence is optional, temporary, and has a leaving date on the paper. No member is encouraged to give up a tenancy, and none has been asked to.
Time
The rota is what a person offered and nothing more. There is no expected quantity of attendance and no house keeps a total.

Where we stop using our own words

The houses have a vocabulary of their own and it is useful for describing papers. It is not used for anything to do with somebody's safety, because a person is entitled to read a sentence once and know what it means. The substitutions below are required by the procedures and are not left to the writer.

Not held apart, held outside, carried elsewherebutmay not attend

A person who must not come to a house has to be able to read the sentence once and know what it means. The house words are gentler and, here, less honest.

Not a difficulty between two membersbutharm

Naming assault, threat, or sexual misconduct as a difficulty describes the house's inconvenience instead of the person's injury.

Not the matter was reconciledbutthe restriction continues until 4 March

Reconciliation is an archival word about papers. It must never be used to describe a decision about a person's safety.

Not referred, in the register sensebutwe have told the police

Where the police are involved the paper says so in those words, because a person is entitled to know it without decoding anything.

Not standing beside the entrybutthis is what you have been accused of

A person facing a matter is given the accusation in ordinary English before anybody speaks to them.